When your ex, during a conversation about your failed relationship, asks if you believe in second chances, yes or no is all that needs said. Even he can manage that. The fact that he hurt me was because, consciously or not, he desired to hurt me. Or couldn't give a fuck about how hie words might affect me.

As you say he didn't mean to give me the impression that I had a chance, despite both of us reading the statement as implying such, then he didn't think, didn't care to think, or failed to care enough to contemplate what those words would do.

When I hurt him, York, it was something that I knew would hurt him. I chose to speak anyway. I put a lot of thought into it. He didn't put any into hurting me. It was cruel. It was malicious whether intended to be or not, and it reinforces that my decision was a good one, because someone who could so easily hurt another like that should not be trusted around my siblings.