Did he know he gave you a panic attack? Were you there in person? Did, afterward, you ever attempt to explain why what he did, and here I must presume it was the eye thing, is a problem?

Of course, in your defense, he gives no fair reason for his treatment of you. And I am tired of this entirely. The way you balk at him, the way he insults you because he does not know you. Not that you attempt to rectify that. You must be responsible for your own adult interactions. It is not my place to be a nagging parent in this. For that I am sorry. I will not interfere with this matter in the future.